Tips on How to Prepare For Marriage
How to Prepare For Marriage: Marriage is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life. One thing about marriage is that you don’t drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. Marriage like they say, is the coming together of two different people bind by love and compassion for each other to become one.
Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that is meant for you, the one that aligns with your values and belief, the one who you meet at your life’s journey. It is important to know where you’re going in life before you think of getting a wife. Let’s dive deep to the topic, How to Prepare For Marriage.
Embarking on the journey of marriage is a significant milestone. In this guide, we will delve into various key aspects to consider as you prepare for marriage, ensuring a solid foundation for a everlasting relationship.
Here are 10 Tips on How to Prepare For Marriage
1. ACQUIRE KNOWLEDGE
Knowledge acquisition is very paramount to prepare for marriage. Some are of the school of thought that experience is the best teacher when it comes to marriage. But I would tell you it’s only because you could possibly learn from others mistakes through knowledge acquisition.
A married man came to me sometimes ago for counseling and I asked him how many books he has read in his five years and above marriage, he said he has not read one? Knowledge acquisition is not enough but the application of it in your relationship and marriage.
2. DEVELOP QUALITY RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD
This comes by being genuinely born again (freedom from sin), sanctification of your mind and Holy ghost baptism. This comes through personal study of the Bible, prayer and constant fellowship with the Brethren.
~ You should know how to hear God clearly.
~ You should have grown up to an extent you don’t need any prophet or Man of God to say this is your partner.
~ You should know how to commune with God.
3. DISCOVER AND FULFILL GOD’S PURPOSE
If you have not discovered your purpose on earth, you are not supposed to be in a relationship because you would abuse yourself or your partner.
Purpose first before relationship. Ask God to show you the reason he created you. What are the things you Love doing even if you are not paid?
Your calling could be to be an Evangelist, Apostle, Pastor, Prophet or teacher of God’s word. You can manifest any of the above in preaching, singing or drama ministry. You need to discover yourself and start fulfilling purpose when you are single.
4. CULTIVATE GOOD CHARACTER
It’s better to stay alone unmarried than to leave with a man or woman of bad character in marriage.
~ Good character talks about SELF CONTROL.
~ Can you control your SEXUAL URGE as a single?
~ Are you still maintaining VIRGINITY or PURITY TILL MARRIAGE?
~ Do you address people with respect or talk anyhow with no regards for men or women?
~ How often do you get angry?
~ Can you control your anger?
If your mouth still runs like tap water while addressing people, marriage is not for you yet but taming your tongue. If you easily get provoked and destroy things, marriage is not for you yet but taming your anger. Bad characters not tamed as singles will ruin marriage.
5. OUTWARD APPEARANCE
Are you aware that you will be mostly addressed the way you dress? Dressing good and smelling nice is very good and it does not mean you are not spiritual. Oversize skirt is not a measure of spirituality!
Flamboyant and express way trousers is not measure of spirituality! Colour combination is very important as well. What about having a nice Hair cut? , Let your Hair Do glorify God as a sister… Iron your clothes with Pressing iron.
Shine your shoes…
~ Develop good Spoken English…
~ Don’t say “I was here to proposal to you”
6. BE DOMESTICATED OR HOMELY
If you don’t love cooking or you can’t cook as a sister, marriage is not the next thing but cooking training.
Learn how to serve food properly in the dining as a sister …This doesn’t exempt the brothers from being a good cook as well. You are not marrying a maid but a wife as a Brother.
7. LIVE WITH THE MARRIED
You can learn the good part of your parents marriage if they are still together. Staying with the good married people will give you a clue of how a model marriage should be.
~ What about taking care of their kids?
~ What about helping them with house chores?
Celebrate the married!
Love children and take care of them.
8. BE SINGLE
Singleness means being able to stand on your own without attaching your life to any brother or sister in a relationship.
~ You can be single and PURPOSEFUL!
~ You can be single and not STUPID!
~ You can be single and not CURSED!
9. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
Endeavor to take financial, spiritual, academic responsibilities when you are single are very important to prepare for marriage.
Stop blaming people for your failure, lack of money and inadequacies. Lead your life successfully before thinking of leading someone else in marriage.
Prov.4.7 – Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.
Prov.4.8 – Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her.
People prepare for school, job, health and other spheres of life but do not prepare for marriage. The saying “Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance” also applies to marriage.
10. BE SOMEONE HE CAN OPENLY TALK TO
You are his wife now, your guy’s life should be transparent. Be someone he can easily talk to. Don’t be those annoying wives and get angry if your opinions aren’t the same. Be understanding and affectionate with him.
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